Why I Don’t Long For Tiny Accidents Anymore: The Origin Story Of The Boundaries Bootcamp
Lofoten Islands, Norway - The place where all your worries disappear.
A few years ago, I was listening to the song ‘‘Sprokkeldagen’’ by the Dutch artist, Typhoon. There was one line in the song that really hit me: 'Let me have an accident, a tiny one, so I'll be forced to remain calm for a while.'
It was a major red flag that I could relate to these lyrics so much, and I realized that something was very, very wrong.
I was longing for a tiny accident, like the flu or a sprained ankle, just so I couldn't go to work. I couldn't imagine calling in sick because then who would handle all the work that needed to be done? I really didn't want to inconvenience others with the tasks I was responsible for. People-pleasing was my second name.
As a normally very happy, warm and vibrant person, I turned in myself and didn’t accept any help. I was also pretending everything was okay when, inside, I felt overwhelmed and burned out.
I was stuck in the never-ending loop of overwhelm, stress and burn-out. How could I break the cycle if I couldn’t find the exit?
Then, one morning, I decided to escape the loop. When I say "decided," I mean it was a choice I had to make. I couldn't think clearly because of all the stress and brain fog, but I had a moment of clarity, where I remembered that I have the power to shape my own life and future.
A future of living to work and being burned-out 24/7, was not what I was looking forward to.
That gave me the push I needed to take a small step toward change. I stopped hiding my feelings and admitted I needed help.
Shit. That was scary!
Besides 1:1 coaching, I was also actively looking for the right resources and ordered many books (most of them I still haven’t read, oops). I noticed that the resources out there were very informative and relatable, but it couldn’t really help me with my issues at its root-cause. That’s when I decided to take matters into my own hands and created
The Boundaries Bootcamp.
In a demanding, ever-changing world, we have to set strong boundaries to ensure we still have a grip on our own future.
The Boundaries Bootcamp is built on my two main values: freedom and helping others. After a lot of research, courses, having discussions with people, and asking continuous feedback from my clients, I am convinced that I have created a transformative product that can help you in breaking the cycle and achieve lasting change.
If you feel like this story resonates with you or if you're in a similar situation, then I've got some liberating news for you.
YOU CAN break free from the cycle you find yourself in. Does that mean you'll never feel overwhelmed again? No!
This is life, and we have to embrace that overwhelm and stress is part of our reality. After joining the Boundaries Bootcamp, you will learn that your loop has an exit, and how to push past doubts, let go of limiting beliefs, and recover from setbacks.
All you need is a tiny push, so you can take that first small step to change.
This is your tiny push. You got this.
What will be your first small step towards change?
Please remember: Seeking professional assistance is crucial. Coaching and training are not substitutes for therapy, and I'm not a medical professional. Consult your GP if you need help.
The Boundaries Bootcamp is available as a training program, workshops and masterclass.
2 Self-reflection questions:
Reflect on a time when you hesitated to ask for help, but still found the courage to do so. How has reaching out for support positively impacted your situation?
What steps can you take today to set clearer boundaries?
Feel free to share your story and answers in the comments (only if you feel comfortable, of course!).
I love to hear from you! You can also e-mail me if you’d like to share your story with me: hello@stevannevandervelden.com.
With love,
Stevanne
